Hello Big Brother Big Sister,
My method of survival was basically to be an introvert from Senior one till now Senior Four. In doing so I found myself isolated beyond my imagination and now feel out of cycle. What advice would you give me for I just want to enjoy my high school life since I live in it once?
Hey dear, hope this finds you well. Dear, being an introvert is more of a character than a form of survival. If you chose it to be your own form of survival, did you think of the reasons why? Being much more intentional saves you a lot of trauma. It gives you much more reason to focus on what you want and who you want to be. If you say “method of survival” then probably being an introvert is not who you are, but instead want to be and definitely that comes with a lot of change both internally and externally.
This also means the isolation could have resulted from both sides, either you isolated yourself first, which is an introversion character that many actual introverts possess, or the people around you isolating you which definitely lowered yourself esteem hence feeling out of place. First things first, please sit down with yourself, have a deep conversation with yourself and ask yourself why you wanted to choose introversion as a form of survival. Does your character or personality actually match that of an introvert? If yes, then think about ways to better yourself.
This includes being intentional with the people you choose to be in your circle, get people who understand you, those that definitely love you and correct you without judgement. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you should close yourself up in some kind of wardrobe, you can reach out to others in a nice way. Interact with people make nice and genuine connections. Find something to volunteer in while at school, or maybe co-curricular activities. In that way, you’ll slowly learn who you are and how you actually want to live life. But if the answer is No, that is to say you aren’t really an introvert.
Then you’ll have to learn to adjust. Better the process is gradual, don’t be changed under pressure. Live your life in your means. Furthermore, enjoy your high school responsibly. Because we live in high school once, doesn’t mean we should do everything from there. To enjoy life in high school means achieving those set goals, making good friends, being positive in whichever situation and accepting our identity. But not going with the flow of the naughty students and thinking what they do is living life in high school or being cool and so on. Choose to be positively different and find what makes you happy while there and enjoy that, still responsibly, not forgetting to get your priorities right while in school, you surely don’t want any regrets.
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